Be a Change Magnet

CHANGE IS THE DRAMA OF LIFE

“What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.”  ~Richard Bach

Quotable quotes. I am a bookworm and I absolutely love reading. Books have been my best friends since I know not when and have helped me grow so much as an individual. Reader’s Digest was one of my favorite magazines during my growing up years. It was full of wonderful quotes and I love quotes. I would write them down in my diary. Wonder where the diary is now? Mmmm…

“To put the world in order, we must put the nation in order. To put the nation in order, we must put the family in order. To put the family in order, we must nurture our personal life. To cultivate our personal life, we must first set our hearts right.” ~Confucius

Anyway, when I came across this quote of the great Chinese philosopher, I was very impressed and inspired.

Logical and practical, right? I mean, the quote above, it makes such perfect sense. If you wish to build something, you have to build it brick by brick. To change the world, of course, you must change person by person. Change is inner work, changing for the better…and who better to begin with than oneself?

It made perfect sense…

When life’s like that, who can think of change? …but when you have siblings who annoy you, friends/classmates who rub you on the wrong side, difficult lessons to be learned at school, parents who expect you to do and be at your best, well, life is neither easy nor simple nor straight…

…and as you grow up, does it get any simpler? Nope! Jobs, colleagues, friends, marriage, spouse, children, new relationships, finances, – more challenges, bigger problems, difficult people, demanding situations! It’s as if the whole world is conspiring to make your life difficult!

When everything’s going well, and you are on a high, why would you want to change anything? When life’s going gets tougher, and all we can see is how the world and it’s people are conspiring against you, inner work and change don’t even cross your mind.

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” ~Leo Tolstoy

Change? Why me? Yet, we do try to change others, we want to change the world, don’t we? We get married and we try to change the other person. We have kids and we try to mould them. We have friends and we try to fix them. We have colleagues and we try to influence them. It’s as if we are on a personal mission to change others and the world.

Even if we are not actively trying to change others, we secretly and fervently hope, wish and expect the others would change. “It’s only fair, isn’t it? They are the problem, why should I change?” would be a common argument.

“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.” ~Jacob M Braude

Ask anyone who’s facing a difficult situation and they would promptly give you a list of people and/or things that need to change. If only he would be like this, if only she did this, if only this didn’t happen…. yup, everything and everyone except themselves in the world must change.

Why do we resist change? Why is it so? Because, inherently, we know that change is not easy, change is not without pain, change takes time, change is lots of inner work. On top of it, we are plain afraid of facing ourselves, afraid of digging deeper, afraid of discovering our true makeup…

“Faced with the choice between changing one’s mind and proving that there is no need to do so, almost everyone gets busy on the proof.”  ~John Kenneth Galbraith

All of us want the results of change without having to go through the process of change. We resist change with all our subconscious might, and we go about our lives, telling ourselves that we are very adaptable, that we can adjust with any person or situation. In reality, we “are very open-minded about new things – as long as they’re exactly like the old ones.” (a Charles F. Kettering quote)

Then a time comes in everyone’s life when change is inevitable. It’s either bend or break. We are forced to change. From a caterpillar to a butterfly. We change grudgingly, resisting all the way, afraid of leaving the comfort zone we have built around ourselves.

“If nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies.”  ~Author Unknown

How about leading change before it chases you in a race against time? Evolution is law of nature. Growth is a part of life. Metamorphosis/change is synonymous with growth and evolution.

Change is powerful. Change is evolution and growth. Change is changing for the better. Change is refreshing. Change is challenging. Change is constant. Change is consistent. Change is the drama of life. Change is natural and part of nature. Change is inevitable.

So, why not embrace change willingly and lovingly?

Come on, become a change leader, be a change magnet. Lead change before it chases you in a race against time.

Ready for some facts and tips on change? Here are a few facts and tips about change to help you appreciate the power of change, embrace change gladly, and be empowered in the process.

SOME FACTS ON CHANGE

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” ~Unknown

Isn’t this a beautiful quote? The first step is to be aware of what you can change and what you cannot. Believe me, not only does it save a whole lot of time and energy… but also plenty of heartache.

FACT #1: Laws of nature/universe are immutable. You cannot change the laws of the nature or the universe. No matter what, the laws are there to stay, the game is underway and you have to abide by the rules. 

FACT #2: Every individual is empowered with freewill. One of the laws of the universe is freewill – human beings are empowered with freewill and have the power to choose. Your thoughts, your actions, your feelings and emotions – these are your choices and an expression of your freewill. Even the universe/god/life respects an individual’s freewill and the right to make choices, it’s only human beings who try to interfere with this law.

FACT #3: We are all different and unique. Also, each person’s energetic makeup is different and their life purpose is different. Each one of us is at different stages in the path of evolution and self-realization. So, what you judge as right and perfect for yourself or others may not be right and perfect for the person next to you – be it your child, spouse, friend, parent, neighbor etc.

“I realized the problem was me and nobody could change me except myself.” ~John Petworth

FACT #4: One can change only oneself. What the above facts imply is that you have no right to change anything or anyone except yourself and no one could change you except yourself.

Attempting to change others would therefore be a futile exercise, prone to frustrations and disappointments, without yielding the results you anticipate. And in case, those people do undergo a change, it’s probably because they wished to change.

THE POWER OF CHANGE

“Change and growth take place when a person has risked himself and dares to become involved with experimenting with his own life.” ~Herbert A. Otto

Power$1: You are in control of your life. And why must you change yourself? You are responsible for yourself and your life.   You are on this planet to grow, to evolve and be a better person.

Life is a mirror of yourself. People in your life (- your parents, spouse/partner, children, family, friends, colleagues, etc. -) and the situations that you get into are nothing but a reflection of yourself. Your energetic makeup is responsible for attracting these people and situations. These are the means through which life prods you towards evolution and growth. In other words, change.

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” ~Victor Frankl

Your energetic makeup is a result of your thoughts, feelings, emotions, actions and your habits. If you are facing difficult people or difficult situations, and you wish to change your life, then you ought to change your energetic makeup.

Once you take charge of your energetic makeup and alter it little by little, your life gets transformed. You are no longer dependent on the outside world or the people around you for what you want, for your peace of mind. You gain an inner strength and serenity, which is priceless!

Power$2: You can heal others by healing yourself. The universe is a matrix of energy and everything is connected through invisible (to our naked eye) lines of force. If the universe is a macrocosm, (hu)man is a microcosm, i.e., the entire universe is there inside of you. Sounds impossible and bizarre, right? It is very much true. This is the basis of astrology and the reason why the stars and planets (and the moon) supposedly have an effect on us.

And therefore, there’s a part of you that is associated with every individual on this planet. Healing that part of yourself, changing that part of yourself for the better, not only heals you but also helps in healing that individual. The ancient Hawaiian healing practice of Ho’oponopono is based on this very powerful concept.

A Hawaiian therapist, Dr. Len, used this very principle to heal an entire ward of “criminally insane patients-without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate’s chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person’s illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.” (You may read the entire story here

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed people can change the world: indeed it’s the only thing that ever has!” ~Margaret Meade

Power$3: You can change the world. The universe is nothing but energy, electromagnetic energy, vibrating at different frequencies that correspond to sound, light and color.

Aura is the electromagnetic field around any mass. Human beings have an aura around them and this aura is determined by the being’s energetic makeup (i.e. thoughts, emotions, actions, habits etc.)

When a person maintains a higher energy, the electromagnetic lines of force around him/her are more aligned, instead of zigzag, and the person becomes a living magnet. Ever heard of people with a magnetic personality? Higher the levels of energy, the more powerful the magnetic lines of force around the person, and therefore higher the person’s ability to attract others.

When people come in contact with such highly magnetic people and maintain sufficient contact, they themselves are transformed. Their lines of force automatically get aligned – just like iron pieces align themselves in presence of a magnet and get magnetized over time.

In India, during ancient times, students went to their guru or teacher’s ashram and stayed with the teacher until their learning was completed (that’s about ten years or more). Constant presence of the teacher was considered to magnetize the students bringing about the transformation and required learning (through induction) in a faster way.

When you start changing for the better, your aura changes. Your aura affects people around you  in a positive way and they get indirectly transformed. Thus, there’s a cascading effect.

To bring about any change in the world, a majority is not required. What is required is a critical mass of people, a small percentage of impassioned and dedicated people. For instance, there are about 6 billion people on this planet. To bring about change in this world, the critical mass would be …. about a million. That’s a very small percentage (~0.016%) but these million people with a focused intention can do wonders. How about being one of them?

When Gandhiji said “Be the change you wish to see in the world“, this is precisely what he meant.

SOME TIPS ON CHANGE

Tip@ 1: Do not attempt to change others. Be it your close family, relatives, friends, colleagues or foes, do not try to change others. Respect their freewill and individuality. Remember, you are not responsible for them, you are responsible for your self.

Tip@ 2: Embrace change willingly, joyfully and gracefully. Change is inevitable. Change is adventure. Change is life. Change is self-realization. When you welcome change and accept it with grace, it can be lots of fun. Adapt and grow.

Tip@3: Change at your own pace. Every person is different, so set your own pace. Don’t compare yourself with others. Don’t be in a hurry to change. Don’t overdo the process and try to fast forward it for better results. Remember, slow and steady wins the race.

Tip@4: Do not resist change. Change is not easy. However, one can reduce the effects of change by flowing along with it.

Tip@5: Be open-minded. This is very important. Change implies growth and evolution. To evolve and step to the next level, it’s important to be open-minded. An unlimited and wider perspective throws open doors of wisdom, presenting infinite possibilities and opportunities.

Tip@6: Listen to your intuition and follow your heart. It’s wiser to tune into your inner self and listen to your intuition. The outside world and the people around you, with their different opinions and advice, can confuse us at times.

Tip@7: Follow life. Life is the greatest teacher. Hold its hand and it’ll walk you down the path of growth and evolution. It’ll show you the best path for you.

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